How Was It For You

James' song 'How Was It For You' delves into the complexities of desire, self-perception, and the often disillusioning nature of relationships. The lyrics open with a striking comparison, suggesting that the subject looks even better than 'the face of god on a sunny day.' This hyperbolic praise sets the stage for a narrative that oscillates between admiration and a sense of being overwhelmed. The speaker acknowledges the allure of the other person but also hints at a sense of regret or burden, as indicated by the line, 'And now I have this bill but I don't wanna pay.' This metaphor suggests that the initial attraction has led to unforeseen consequences or emotional costs.

The chorus, 'How was it for you,' serves as a recurring question that underscores the uncertainty and vulnerability in the relationship. The lyrics explore themes of control and disarmament, questioning whether external aids like alcohol are necessary to lower defenses. This reflects a deeper inquiry into the authenticity of their interactions. The speaker admits to feeling 'defenceless,' indicating a loss of control and a willingness to be vulnerable, yet there's a plea for discretion: 'Do with me what you want but don't tell a soul.' This line captures the tension between desire and the fear of exposure or judgment.

As the song progresses, it touches on the idea of self-destructive behavior driven by sexual obsession. The line 'I'm so possessed by sex I could destroy my health' highlights the potentially harmful consequences of unchecked desire. The lyrics also critique superficial aspects like fashion and attitude, suggesting a longing for something more genuine and timeless. The closing lines, 'Was it as good as it was for me / Well that's the best it's ever been / And you're the best I've ever seen,' offer a moment of sincere admiration, yet the recurring question 'How was it for you?' leaves the listener pondering the true nature of the relationship and whether the feelings were mutual.