We Can't Be Friends
Deborah Cox
The Heartbreaking Reality of Unresolved Love
Deborah Cox's song "We Can't Be Friends" delves into the painful aftermath of a romantic relationship that has ended, yet the emotional ties remain unbroken. The lyrics poignantly capture the struggle of two individuals who have verbally agreed to part ways but find it impossible to transition into a platonic friendship. The song opens with RL expressing the difficulty of pretending that their past relationship never existed, highlighting the absurdity of greeting each other with a handshake when they were once deeply in love. This sets the tone for the emotional turmoil that both characters experience throughout the song.
The chorus, sung by both RL and Deborah, underscores the central theme: the impossibility of being friends when romantic feelings still linger. Deborah's verse adds another layer of complexity by introducing the idea of familial ties and social expectations. She mentions seeing RL's car at her mother's house, indicating that their lives are still intertwined in ways that make moving on even more challenging. This verse also reveals Deborah's internal conflict as she tries to view RL as just another past love but finds it impossible due to the depth of her feelings.
The song reaches its emotional peak when both singers admit that they are still in love with each other. The lyrics describe the awkward and painful encounters they have, where even a simple glance or close proximity can reignite their unresolved feelings. The repeated refrain "We can't be friends" serves as a heartbreaking acknowledgment that their love is too strong to allow for a mere friendship. The song concludes with a mutual confession of love, leaving listeners with a sense of unresolved tension and emotional complexity.